My Stand on Pre Marital Sex

Ever since this topic has been listed as a contest in Indiblogger, there has been a heated debate in the forum about how controversial the subject is and the views of many of them seems to vary from north to south pole. Even I did not want to take part in it as it seemed very controversial at first. As days went by I was thinking how INDIA which gave kamasutra to the world, and so many ancient temples which has exquisitely carved and crafted sculptures of sexual nature suddenly became a place where even speaking about sex and related things became a taboo. So here I am sharing my views on this to the whole world.

Being a teen in my early twenties coming from a traditional south indian family, I couldnt conclude immediately to say whether its right or wrong to engage in pre marital sexual activities. Even though my mind said its wrong, heart couldn’t agree completely on it. So I started thinking about all the positivies and negatives to make a conclusion. So here are my findings.

Benefits of Sex:

Science has proved that sex can improve the Immune System , it can lower the blood pressure, Lowers Heart Attack Risk, counts as an excercise, improves sleep and eases stress. As Sex is a powerful brain stimulant, it can boost ones self-esteem and happiness too.

Now lets see how it fares when it happens pre maritally.

  1. It runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children (Unwanted pregnancies).
  2. High risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases such as STD etc.
  3. Usage of multiple contraceptive Pills can cause Infertility.
  4. Breakups become more hurtful and painful.
  5. Having sex at a young age without proper sexual education, can lead to potential dangers.
  6. It can arrest their psychological, social and academic development.
  7. Coming from a religious background its also considered a Sin.
  8. The worry about pregnancy & diseases.
  9. Feeling guilty.
  10. Having regrets.

When we compare the positives and negatives, the benefits do outweigh the negatives.

If Pre marital sex happens between adults with mutal consent and they practice ‘safe sex’ then its fine.

Sex is something which is a very private affair happening between two people. So either its pre or saving the virginity for marriage is their own decision to make. Finally they have to accept the decision and live by the consequences.

As far as I am concerned, I stand against it , as it doesnt comply by my own religious and moral values.

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Road Safety – Be the Change

Road safety is one of the  major social concern in our country. India being the second largest road network in the world also accounts for 10 percent of fatal road accidents worldwide. And the social cost of these accidents in INDIA alone is expected as $11,000 USD. We lag behind the safety norms of international standards.

What is the cause of it?

We  humans take everything for granted and misuse it. We mostly don’t wear helmets while driving two wheelers. Even when its mandatory, we are okay with paying 50 to 100 rupee fine for not wearing it, as it will make our hair look unkempt/sweaty.

We don’t use subways and bridges to cross the road and instead walk into the traffic as we are always in a hurry.

We also use footpath to drive our two wheelers when in traffic because that saves us a lot of time.

And when we walk also, we walk in the middle of the road as footpaths are dirty and even shout at people who drive near us.

When it comes to driving a car, we don’t bother wearing the seat belt as its treated as a hindrance. We also proudly say ‘I don’t even wear seat belts in flights’

How do we fix this?

As Mahatma Gandhi said ‘Be the change you want to see in the world“, the responsibility lies with us. We must start to follow the rules and let go of the chalta hai attitude.

Our Government has taken multiple steps to up the safety norms but we still find loopholes in order to misuse it.

Rash Driving, not using proper safety measures can take life in an instant.  We only get one life and we must not waste it by our silly mistakes. When we drive, its not only our life , other drivers and pedestrians life is also in our hands. So we must take complete responsibilities while driving.

When I went for getting my license in RTO office, that day around 40 to 50 people came. But only few (around 10) were asked to drive bike and car in the morning. When I went to collect the printed license in the evening I saw around 30 people came for it. I asked a guy who came in the morning but dint drive anything, he replied with a bright smile “I have paid 1000 extra machi”.  He had this sense of superiority about himself being able to get the job done with bribing. These things leads to bad drivers, who doesn’t have any sense of road rules and regulations.

The road safety rules and regulations shouldn’t be taken lightly as its a matter of life and death. These laws are for our benefits. So as long as we obey it, we wont be needing luck to be on our side.

Few pointers from my side:

  • Start early so you don’t have to accelerate and do rash driving.
  • Slow and steady wins the race. Drive slowly and smoothly as long as you are not in a race 😛
  • Always check for safety measures while buying vehicles (such as airbags etc).
  • Keep safe distance from front vehicles.
  • Wear helmet always while driving two wheelers.
  • We wear belts to keep our pant intact, why not seat-belts to keep our life intact ? – wear them always.
  • Follow the lane while driving in highways.
  • Never drink and drive.
  • Use dim/dip lights in high way and night driving.
  • Stop using headphones and listening to songs while driving as its the only time to hear songs.
  • Stop answering calls and using mobile while driving.
  • Use Zebra crossing , subways and bridges when its available.
  • Obey the rules and follow the signals.

Your Life is in your hands, take good care of it by following these 🙂

This Post is part of SAFETY BEGINS WITH ME campaign by Nissan Safety Driving Forum (NSDF) in association with Indiblogger.

About the Campaign:

The Nissan Motor Co., Ltd., conducts the Nissan Safety Driving Forum (NSDF) in India as part of its safety driving promotion activities. The program began as an annual activity in 2012. In its initial phase it covered three main Indian cities – New Delhi, Mumbai and Chennai – and since then has gradually expanded to several additional cities across India.

This year, NSDF would reach 8 new cities – Chandigarh, Jalandhar, Jaipur, Vadodara, Nagpur, Chennai, Mangalore and Kochi. The overall reach and engagement levels have phenomenally grown and NSDF has effectively reached close to 2 lakh citizens. It continues to stay committed to its core objective of promoting safe driving behaviour in India. Nissan seeks to support reducing fatalities and injuries caused by traffic accidents, and NSDF represents the company’s commitment in contributing to young, vibrant and mobile India.

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CLEANATHON – Lets make INDIA Cleaner

The title of this post might have intrigued you to ask “I am Clean.I am keeping my home clean. Why make India clean?, Isn’t it Government’s Job to keep it clean using taxpayers money?

We the humans can’t stand to see our home/work place dirty or untidy. At least once in a week we mop and clean our house. We take so much care as we spend most of our time there. Similarly INDIA is our home so it becomes our social and civic duty to keep it clean. Public Transports, Parks, roads, railway stations, malls, Bus stops all these are pride of our home called INDIA. These are part of our day to day activity, yet we spit and litter all over as if it doesn’t even matter. And finally we play the blame game and blame it on the Government.

Lately most of us have been either hearing/speaking about the Swachh India and similar campaigns but forget it later after voicing just our opinions. If we want a Change to happen, it has to start within. That is why Gandhi said “Be the change you want to see in the world”.

Now you may ask “How does cleaning it help” ?

Well Cleaning helps in raising awareness about sanitation and hygiene. Cleaning helps to maintain hygiene and prevents us from catching deadly diseases. Yes, being unhygienic can lead to lot of health problems. In Many rural villages there are still no latrines used. Even in developed city like Chennai there aren’t proper disposal of sewage or wastewater. This causes ecosystem for mosquito’s and leads to malaria etc.  When trash is not properly disposed and waste water joins  fresh water, it poisons it and disrupts the balance in nature and causes havoc for other creatures too. So proper cleaning, sanitation and hygiene goes a long way. It creates a ripple effect and creates lots of benefits for us and makes earth sustainable.

Being an ardent fan of Team Arsenal in EPL, I made myself a part of a Community called “Arsenal Chennai Fans Community” in Facebook. It was all fun and troll at the start.  During the FIFA world cup match between Ivory Coast & Japan, something just caught our attention (Not only ours, whole world too). The Japanese fans who came to watch the match, even though their team lost, they stayed and cleaned the whole stands after the match. It was such a wonderful gesture . When ISL came to Chennai, few folks in the community posted about doing the same deed in Chennai Nehru Stadium. Many included me were hesitant to join at first, but it become a huge success with many volunteers joined from second match onwards. Even though I couldn’t join that effort due to work timings and restrictions, I felt really proud seeing my friends and community mates following a good deed and leaving a legacy. I have pledged to myself to take part in such initiatives in future and  it gave me the courage to join a similar initiative in my work place.

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A Small spark set by Japanese fans has become a wildfire with so many people following the same.  Let this Cleanathon spark lit up and make way for brighter and cleaner INDIA.

What is Cleanathon?

RB (Reckitt Benckiser) and NDTV have partnered to launch “Dettol – Banega Swachh India” – a 5 year ambitious program to address the rising need of hygiene and sanitation in India.

The campaign will aim at creating awareness about the importance of hygiene and sanitation, and also work with NGO partners to support infrastructure for construction and maintenance of toilets. RB India has committed to spend a sum of Rs.100 crores towards this program over a period of the next 5 years.

As a part of this initiative, NDTV & Dettol are organising a 12 hour LIVE televised CLEANATHON on 14th December, 2014, which will bring together the entire nation towards better sanitation & hygiene. Mr Amitabh Bachchan is our campaign ambassador and will be the host of this event. The show will include LIVE ground events from different parts of the country which will bring citizens together to engage in a mass Cleanathon all day from 9:00am to 9:00pm and will see participation from Chief Ministers, other government voices, corporates, opinion-makers, PM’s Swachh Ambassadors, Bollywood & Sports personalities & other celebrities.

For More info: http://swachhindia.ndtv.com/

Let us follow what Our Beloved Michael Jackson sang and Heal the world together 🙂

“Heal The World
Make It A Better Place
For You And For Me
And The Entire Human Race
There Are People Dying
If You Care Enough
For The Living
Make A Better Place
For You And For Me”

Raise Your Standard

It’s Christmas season all around the globe and time to share the glad tidings of joy to everyone. Christmas is all about sharing and caring for our needy brothers and sisters. It is the time of the year when we thank GOD for all things he has done for us the past year.

No matter how much GOD blesses us financially, we humans always desire for things we dont have and increase our expenditures to live a luxorious life thinking all those are legitimate needs.

These luxuries we indulge overselves mostly spoils us rather than putting us in a comfort zone.

So lets take a time and think. This year and onwards let us pledge to Raise our Standard of Giving rather than raising our standard of living.

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There are lot of people around the world who deprive from hunger due to poverty. Staticstics show that so many kids suffer from malnutirion and hunger becomes hobby for them.

Its in OUR HANDS to prevent this. Let us all stop finding more ways to spend money and DONATE. The happiness attained from making others happy is bliss.

This post is part of #BlogToFeedAChild activity by Akshaya Patra and BlogAdda , where in Blogadda will donate meal for a kid a whole year when someone makes a blog post. Start blogging and start giving.

Donating is giving back to the socitey we live in as the children will become the future pillars of the same society.

I am going to #BlogToFeedAChild with Akshaya Patra and BlogAdda.

So this christmas lets be a santa in some kids life and share the happiness 🙂

Stop Bullying and end Ragging – #AbMontuBolega

Bullying and Ragging is so prevalent in India that it is treated as part of school days and colleges. This needs to be removed from the roots. Bullying and Ragging may sound funny and make people laugh, but it leaves scars too deep for the person who is bullied. There are various adverse efforts of bullying . There are also many incidents in the past suggest  that, these have led to such end that people have committed suicide. Let me list down some of the bad effects due to bullying and ragging.

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Feelings of sadness and loneliness
  • Loss of interest in activities
  • Inferiority complexion
  • Feeling isolated even when there is a crowd
  • Spending a lot of time trying to figure out what to do or where to go to avoid being harassed.
  • Thinking your parents would be worried or upset if you told them.
  • Health issues leading to headache and stress
  • Starting to think that maybe the insults are true and wondering if it’s your own fault.
  • Having mood swings.
  • Wishing you could talk to someone but you are not sure what you want to say.
  • Feeling trapped, helpless, withdrawn.
  • Notice that these feelings are causing you to be unhappy at home & you are feeling short tempered with your parents and siblings.

These things can lead to self harm and growing up, it becomes harder to trust others and make new friends. In some extreme cases people become suicidal.

How to Stop This:

It all starts during the adolescence when everyone starts to think how life’s goes on and gets into lots of physical and emotional changes. Life isn’t a bed of roses and has ups and down for everyone. As they say the change must start within, everyone must pledge to keep their well being even when they are going through stress / tension.

  • Keep a role model who you can admire and follow.
  • Reach out to your parents/mentors. They are here to guide & help you.
  • Eat , sleep, play and find balance between all these things.
  • Always look for opportunities to reach your potential.
  • Feel free to express yourself.
  • If you see someone bullying others, don’t be a bystander, act and stop it.

Indian Government has launched  National Anti-Ragging Helpline to prevent this.

  1. Students who are being bullied/ragged can send a mail to  helpline@antiragging.in to register their complaint
  2. There is also a helpline number 1800-180-5522 which can be called at any time to file a complaint

Lets all raise our voice and stop this menace and make India more Cleaner and better.

#AbMontuBolega Campaign:

This is a initiative by Strepsils India to make India cleaner. To achieve this ultimate goal, everyone should voice their opinion and share their part. Just by being a silent spectator or bystander we cant achieve it. So let us use the power of our voice to clean India.

Here we are the Montu who have been a silent spectator till now. We know that raising our voices against all that is dirty in our country is a power that we all have. Let’s exercise the power of our voice & work towards a Swach Bharat.

Kyuki Bin Bole Ab Nahi Chalega #AbMontuBolega.

Check Out their website, Facebook & twitter for more info about their campaign.

Website: http://www.abmontubolega.com/

Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/StrepsilsIndia

Twitter : https://twitter.com/StrepsilsIndia

 

Say no to classroom hunger

HUNGER is a universal problem which is faced by millions of people all over the world.
We often seem to append poor people with hunger. But it ain’t right. Not all poor people are hungry but all most all hungry people are poor.

Food is a basic amenity which everyone should possess.  Due to financial difficulties many are left to starve which leads to malnutrition.  This leads children to take up work in order to feed.  Child laborers give up their childhood to feed their families.

Our government came up with the mid day meal scheme to provide free meal for kids in government and government aided schools so they don’t starve and get a good basic education.

My mom being a teacher in a government school in rural slum area, I have witnessed many kids who turn up to school just for getting the free meal.

When I was in school I eagerly wait for the lunch bell to ring,  so me and my friends can share our food, gossip and have loads of fun. And during college days we use to overeat during lunch and take a nap in evening classes.

It is saddening to hear and see that so many kids starve and yet come to learn to shape their future. There are many drastic effects from these hunger. I have heard that people turn to alcohols and cigarettes as it kills the appetite. But it continues and it becomes an addiction.

Now comes a point where we have to think how to stop this and prevent the classroom hunger

  • Write a blog post! Yes you heard it right. Even this post is  for that campaign. Akshaya Patra and BlogAdda together have come up with a campaign where in they will donate food for a child whole year for one blog post.  Why are you waiting? Start blogging now.
  • How much do you think it costs to feed a child for a year?  750/- rupee only.  We spent so much on taking care of our appearance by buying branded apparels, grooming and for maintaining a social status we often give treats and party. If we just take a fraction that and donate 750 bucks or whatever we are capable to Akshaya Patra a child can stay of hunger for a year.

I am going to #BlogToFeedAChild with Akshaya Patra and BlogAdda.

Invest in people and empower them for a better tomorrow!!